I’m quite sure everyone is familiar with these two words. Second chances. Some may cringe and others may exhale a sigh of compassion and forgiveness. Just reading those two words sends mixed signals to my brain. Giving second chances are tricky, you must be 100 percent sure that is exactly want you want to do.
On one hand, giving second chances allow your significant other, friend, etc the opportunity to remain in your life and the chance for you two to reconcile. However on the other hand, giving those second chances also allow for your significant other, friend, etc the opportunity to again misuse and abuse your trust.
Speaking from experience, I was given a second chance in a relationship that I had nearly destroyed. With that second chance I made a few promises to myself after reevaluating my past actions. Those promises included, better communication, listening & accepting advice, opening up & of course continuous love. I’m truly thankful I was allowed another chance to ‘right my wrongs’.
However, I have been burned by allowing a previous second chance at love. I was destroyed, defeated and confused. Things just didn’t make sense. I started to question my decision. But I prevailed and used that as a life lesson on thinking things through.
In closing every second chance situation is different. If I could write a guide on this phenom I would, however I can’t. I can only offer my personal opinion.
So what’s that motto Miss Frizzle used to say, “take chances, make mistakes and get messy.” Yeah apply that to your second chance situations and don’t forget to ask yourself…
Are you willing to start all this all over?